I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
I met Mr. Jose Antonio Tijerino at the Silicon Valley Latino Leadership Summit following his receipt of the SVLLS Visionary Leadership Awards. While I remember little about his acceptance speech, what impressed me was how many people from his organization turned out to see him honored. It spoke to the type of man he is and how he has the ability to inspire others. When it came around to nominations for a Father’s Day piece, his name was right at the top…and he graciously spent some of his time answering our interview questions.
I&S: What was your childhood like?
JAT: It was always interesting that’s for sure. One moment you’re in a stable environment with a complete household and the next there’s civil war and you’re uprooted and your immediate family is spread over three continents … and then you adjust and create your own path.
I&S: What do you remember most about your father growing up?
JAT: A serious man with a great sense of humor. An educated, disciplined and no-nonsense man who didn’t suffer fools (and I was always fooling around) but I always felt his love. A wonderful conversationalist about any topic you can imagine, I appreciate him being in my life, albeit long-distance in Nicaragua. He’s now 84 and I call him a couple times a week, never out of obligation but moreover out of friendship as we spend hours discussing world events, sports, politics and of course family. I always felt his love but I have started to feel his respect as he sees me as a father who balances a successful career and community involvement without ever compromising my family.
I&S: How did you imagine being a father was like before you had children?
JAT: It is actually just what I thought it would be like. Commit to it completely and understand your responsibilities as a father, which includes being a supportive husband (they are not exclusive endeavors). I always saw fatherhood as an opportunity to grow and learn as my children do and it’s been exactly that. What you can’t imagine before becoming a father is your endless capacity to love a child – and I have three children. Whatever you had to measure the concept of love up to that point in your life – your parents, siblings, friends or even your life-partner – is dwarfed by the love you have for your children.
I&S: What were the realities once you became a father?
JAT: The realities are that you have to be completely committed, especially when they are young. My wife and I have boundaries as all parents should have and we have exposed our kids to foods, art and music we enjoy but ultimately, I defer to Dora instead of the news. They also do EVERYTHING you do! So you need to be cognizant of that all day long. And they are much smarter than I expected – just brilliant. Another reality is that your relationship with your partner has to be pliable as your raise children. And you have to be aware of what your partner is going through working with you to raise your children. Committing to being a good husband is the starting point of being a good father. It’s not just about the kids.
I&S: What makes a good father?
JAT: Respecting your kids as much as you expect them to respect you. It’s not a one-way street. Being consistent when you discipline; being consistent period. Don’t yell at them to stop yelling. It’s confusing and you lose credibility. Pay attention to them and make them feel special. The quest to feel special can be a great motivator to do great things but also bad things. Be present and not jwust being in the room with them. Engage them on their terms, not just yours. Too many parents want their kids to adapt to them. You need to meet them halfway and learn their favorite characters from princesses to Skylanders Giants to the latest dance moves (although I did teach them the robot too).
Have conversations with them about what they care about but also what you care about. My kids know exactly who Martin Luther King was and who Roberto Clemente and Ellen Ochoa and Frida Kahlo and Justice Sotomayor are. They also know about how schools were segregated and how far the country has come but how much farther we need to go. They give other kids toys and volunteer with me to serve disenfranchised communities. It’s important to help shape them but to also allow them to be individuals. Make them think for themselves with you as a parent providing guidance. And be involved with their lives from changing their diapers to putting them to sleep to bathing them to reading to them. Every minute is a bonding opportunity.
My kids are now 8, 6 and 3 and yes, it’s exhaustive, but I always enjoy this chance to be their hero and being so needed. You also need to be involved in their endeavors from sports to schools to extracurricular activities. I’m on the board of the National PTA, their grade school foundation, Imagination Stage where they go to a children’s theatre and attend every sporting event or ballet recital. Always keep in mind that it’s your privilege to be a father.
I also need to add that how you treat your partner is how they will expect to be treated when they get older. Your responsibility as a father goes beyond making a living and playing with the kids. It starts with setting an example.
I&S: What trait or knowledge did you father pass along to you that you want to pass along to your children?
JAT: The importance of family, the intrinsic significance of taking pride in what you do, and the purpose of honesty to simplify your life.
I&S: Being a Latina myself, there were different rules for the genders. But the culture is moving towards equality between the sexes. How do you plan to nurture your children so both the males and the females feel they can both become leaders?
JAT: It’s interesting; my son is inherently very sensitive, kind and thoughtful. My daughters are more aggressive, assertive and demanding. A big part of my job in blurring the gender lines has already been done!
I&S: Any special plans for Father’s Day?
JAT: Spend the day with my kids and wife! It’s the greatest present I could ask for, truly. I don’t relate to the dads who want to run off to play golf or spend time away from their families on Father’s Day. To me, that is a special day to spend with your kids and celebrate the privilege of being a father.
I&S: From a leadership perspective, what should Latino fathers be passing along to their children?
JAT: That we are undeniably American with the additional experience of being Latino – which should be a tremendous source of inspiration, pride and responsibility to contribute. That responsibility should be embedded in youth to be contributors in this great country and to understand that they represent our community everywhere they go. And they need to be actionable leaders, which I like to say. With technology, a youth’s vision can turn into impact very quickly. But take chances, be creative and focus on impact.
I&S: As the Latino population becomes the majority in California, are there old ways of thinking that should be modified (or even abandoned) so the community can be leaders?
JAT: You know what the problem with old ideas is? That they take up room that should go to new ideas.
Keep in mind that our community is the youngest segment of the population with more than 1/3 being under 18 years old, so it will take a youth movement to move our community, California and our country forward. The notion that youth are the “next generation” or “future leaders” is a passive aggressive way to tell them that it’s not their time yet. But it is their time. Now. We can’t afford to wait. And they should understand the critical need for innovation and creativity in everything they do. A high school kid today can reach more people, more effectively and faster than Cesar Chavez, Martin Luther King and Gandhi could in their combined lifetimes. They are leaders of today, not tomorrow. Ahora si!
I&S: How does your organization help the Latino community?
JAT: The Hispanic Heritage Foundation identifies, prepares, connects and positions Latino leaders in the classroom, community and workforce through award-winning programs that create a sustainable eco-system of impact made up of a network of tens of thousands. It’s been amazing to be recognized by the White House, Congress and Fortune 500 companies but mostly, to be recognized by our youth who know they can present us with an idea and we take it to action. I could go on forever so instead of taking up the rest of your day talking about our approach, please visit http://www.HispanicHeritage.org to see what we do – which fulfills me, energizes me and challenges me. I am a man who can’t wait for Monday morning to come so I can go to work and at the end of the workday, I can’t wait to get home to be with my family. It is the perfect life.
I&S:: We at Image and Style Magazine usually add some words following our articles to sum up our interviews. But frankly, who needs to add anything to what is already perfect. Our best wishes go out to Mr. Tijerino and his family on this Father’s Day.
